Care for the Caregiver



MANY FAMILIES ARE STRUGGLING DURING THE COVID PANDEMIC.  RICHMOND HILL RESIDENT, HEATHER SKOLL OFFERS A CRITIQUE ON A BOOK ABOUT SELF COMPASSION BY KRISTIN NEFF.   PLEASE SEE BELOW.  SELF COMPASSION IS A HELPFUL CONCEPT THAT MAY HELP DURING THESE UNCERTAIN TIMES. LOOK FOR HEATHER’S TIPS ABOUT SELF CARE IN THE FUTURE ON THE HOME ON THE HILL WEBSITE.
Inspiration from “The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook”

by Kristin Neff and Christoper Germer.

By Heather Skoll

Heather’s Article

 Could you use some self-compassion right now? During these challenging times I imagine that everyone could use an extra boost of inspiration, especially if you are without the supports you need that make life more manageable.

“Be kind to yourself in the midst of suffering” is the phrase that stood out for me from “The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook”. To me, it speaks to finding a sliver of light in the darkness.

 In the book, Kristin writes that her meditation teacher advised her to shift her focus to loving-kindness, and to simply repeat phrases such as “May I be safe”, “May I be healthy”, “May I live with ease”. Repeating such phrases helps to reinforce kindness, and begins to shine a little bit of light to our inner selves.

Will you consider what loving-kindness phrase you might choose to say to yourself?

 The loving kindness phrase that I use is “May I have peace”. This helps calm my heartbeat and reminds me to breathe.

May you also have peace as you continue to navigate these challenging times.

Heather Skoll lives in Richmond Hill, Ontario, is a Certified Kripalu Yoga Teacher, a Certified Rubenfeld Synergist and a public speaker. Heather founded the Reset Zone app with one minute video tools that help users calm their challenging emotions.
Winner of the Chair Award at the RHBOT 2019 Business Achievement Awards

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Breathing Inspiration from “The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook”

by Kristen Neff and Christoper Germer.

By Heather Skoll

 

Could you use some attention to your breathing to support your self-compassion?

 

As a yoga teacher and holistic therapist, I know how important good breathing is to feel like we are flowing in our body and in our life. Despite our stress and tension, breath moves in and out automatically, however, just a few moments of focused attention to breathing may help us feel a bit better.

 

There is a breathing exercise from “The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook” called “Affectionate Breathing” which I adapted and outline here.

 

  1. Find a posture in which you can feel supported.
  2. Gently close or partially close your eyes.
  3. Place your hand over your heart or affectionately on another place on

your body if you are comfortable with this.

  1. Begin noticing as you breathe in and breath out

 Follow your breathing, flowing in and flowing out.

  Stay with your breathing as it moves in and out.

  1. Slowly and gently open your eyes.

 

Repeat this as often as you need to.

 

May you have flow in your breathing as you continue to navigate these challenging times.

 

Heather Skoll lives in Richmond Hill, Ontario, is a Certified Kripalu Yoga Teacher, a Certified Rubenfeld Synergist and a public speaker. Heather founded the Reset Zone app with one minute video tools that help users calm their challenging emotions.

 

https://www.lifenoteswisdom.com/

https://www.resetzone.ca/#/